How an Asian woman spent her 25 years of life

I reside in Pakistan, a country in southern Asia bordered by India to the east, Iran and Afghanistan to the west, China to the north, and the Arabian Sea to the south. I’d want to start by introducing you to my nation, its culture, and its way of life.

Having an area of 881,913 square kilometres, Pakistan is the 33rd-largest country (340,509 square miles). My region has a wide range of geographical features, including rivers, lakes, deserts, and tall mountains like K2, also known as Mount Godwin Austen. The people in this area are also diverse. They have different traditions and rules, but the majority of people are Muslims. Pakistan is split into five provinces. punjab, sindh, balochistan, khyber pakhtunkhwa, and gilgit-baltistan are the names of the provinces. But because I live in Punjab, I’ll show you how a Punjabi Pakistani woman spent her 25 years of life.

Being born a girl:

Since most couples live in huge joint families, marriages are not between two individuals but rather between two families, birthing a girl is not a simple effort. For the majority of Pakistani households, females are not a good sign. Girls are not a good gender in hinduism, and they are treated as burdens. As a result, during the period before 1947 when Pakistan and India were united and all Muslims and Hindus lived together, this legacy was passed on to Muslims, and this idea is now prevalent in our day.

A girl between the ages of 0 and 10:

In light of what I’ve just said, parents worry more about a daughter’s marriage than they are pleased for her birth. The nurturing of a boy and a girl differs greatly. Most of Pakistan’s rural areas do not provide females with early schooling; instead, parents try to prepare them for domestic tasks. Boys receive upscale amenities, and other gender experience severe discrimination.

Not all Muslim communities are as unkind and ignorant as this. This is a negative impact of Islam that indicates a negative Muslim evaluation of pre-Islamic life and culture in Arabia as compared to the teachings and practices of Islam.

Let me share some facts with you regarding the girl in this image.

Zainab Ansari was a 7-year-old Pakistani girl who was kidnapped on January 4, 2018, while her route to Quran recitation lessons in her village of Kasur, Punjab. On January 9, 2018, a waste disposal site near the city of Lahore received a body that had been dumped five days earlier. An autopsy revealed that she had been severely raped and tortured before being strangled to death. Imran Ali, 24, the rapist and killer of the prepubescent girl, was apprehended and recognised as a serial killer responsible for at least seven other rapes and deaths of young women in the area. This is what really constitutes our society’s dark side.

After entering an adolescent:

The hardest part of an Asian girl’s life is this phase. It appears that parents are pretty strict. Girls are not permitted to go for an alone stroll outside. They are unable to socially interact. In the majority of Pakistan’s underdeveloped regions, girls are not permitted to attend school or college.

Most families forbid girls from speaking to boys. Most women outside of the family think that girl is dating that guy because this behaviour seems so horrible to them. Teenage years are regarded as a challenging time in life because both boys and girls are maturing and approaching adulthood.

On the other hand, boys are seen as the superior gender since they enjoy complete independence, are raised as though they were kings of the family, and cannot be punished for bad behaviour. Due to this, the majority of boys in our culture commit negative deeds like rape, stealing, and throwing acids on girls.

Although not everyone is as badass as those bad boys, this is fact and a detrimental aspect of our culture that should not be ignored. Islam instructs us to respect women as much as our own mothers and sisters, hence there are many excellent people who also protect women when they are in danger.

Life as a woman of 25:

After reaching 20s, I began to notice that many people were unhappy with me, perhaps as a result of my social interactions.I tried to make friends numerous times, but because I had such a lonely life, I didn’t know how to communicate and interact with others on a social level.I maintain a lifestyle that runs into my home. I start making breakfast at nine in the morning, then lunch, dinner, and so forth. I spend the majority of my day in the kitchen, attending to everyone who needs anything.

The next stage of my life will be getting married to a man I don’t know and spending the rest of my days with him. Instead of my degrees and qualifications having any worth, becoming a housewife without a career or aspirations will wreck my entire life. Talks for Desi marriages are extremely useless. Due to the high standards of beauty and class, families of both boys and girls meet and end up refusing each other. Girls like myself are sick and tired of dealing with people who will reject you without reasoning. They are seeking even higher standards of class. Females in my society experience real discrimination; we should put an end to this tradition and free the girls to follow their true desires.

Females in my society experience real discrimination; we should put an end to this tradition and free the girls to follow their true desires.

We should raise our daughters in the same way as Mariyum Mukhtyar, Ayesha Malik, Arfa Karim, and Nigar Johar.